Choosing a Different Dream: Guest Post by Diane Miller

I love that this series on Downward Mobility introduced me to Diane Miller. One can argue about terms and theoreticals and even theology all the live long day, but what really interests me (and, I suspect, everyone else) are stories of transformation. Diane is one of those people (and she is so very very nice!). I, like Diane, believe there are a whole lot of us out there who are being transformed with better dreams, visions that come from Christ himself. Diane gives a call that I would love to see responded to: are there others out there like her? It’s time to share your story in this space, time to be mutually encouraged, time for a fresh wave of vision for the peace of God to come in all our neighborhoods. Amen!

Choosing a Different Dream: Guest Post by Diane Miller

Most of us in the U.S. have bought into some version of the American dream. We get an education, a job and then we buy dream stuff–a widescreen something or other, a car, furniture, and then maybe a condo or house.  Along with that, we also seem to choose a destination-based community lifestyle, as we start traveling to our job, school, church, or activities.  We head out from our home in the morning and come back after our 9, 12 or 15-hour day of work, school and/or fun stuff.  No longer is most of daily American life spent in our home neighborhoods. Our lifestyles are now formed by the pursuit of our American opportunities and we spend more hours “going & doing” each day than we do living in our homes (sleeping doesn’t count!). I bought into this modern-day prosperity lifestyle for a few decades; however, I am now done with it! My dream routine left me with no sense of belonging in any one community and the “going & doing” became too downright exhausting!!

Our family has decided to intentionally live different. We’ve chosen a culturally and socio-economically blended neighborhood to call home and we are determined to base most of our life here. We’re not “going & doing” as much. We own one car and live on one income, which affords me, the mom, time to do all sorts of community activism and volunteer work. Our daughter attends a neighborhood public school, has become fully bilingual and is on track to head to her college choice.

We know that we have had privilege and entitlements being white, growing up in a quickly fading white dominant culture. We are highly educated and have more than our basic needs provided for by my husband’s corporate-type job. We could have chosen a “stacked wealth” area that appears more affluent, beautiful, comfortable and safe to live in.  However, we’ve resolved that those qualities no longer fit with our family mission of living with less and loving more.  So, we’re living and breathing deep into our chosen beloved ‘hood while building meaningful friendships with our neighbors–as many as possible!

Most days we find peace, freedom and joyful adventure in this life. Our neighborhood mix gives us opportunity to get to know folks who are immigrants from all over the world. The only thing homogeneous in our community is that we are all very different. Is that comfortable?  Well, not always. We have tolerated vandalism, tagging, alley arson fires, gang bangers hanging around and an occasional shooting. But, is it a place to see our God’s goodness, live an abundant life adventure and stand against the systemic injustices that follow gentrification in our nation’s cities? Yes, pretty much everyday! It is our family model for living and loving well with what we have been given. Besides, how did comfort, dream stuff and constant “going & doing” become more valuable than Christian love and servitude to others not like us in a neighborhood community?

We’ve been on this journey for a while and, being real, we’re still battling our old “dream” tendencies – so, we’re human! We also believe many others are making similar lifestyle choices and hope to connect with y’all and share stories, inspiring a different type of urbanization movement.  Are you folks out there? what are you doing?

Our dream is that all neighborhoods flourish with no stacked poverty or stacked wealth. . . communities where people live, belong and celebrate the good of all the different residents on their blocks. Neighborhoods where children are well known and have a sense of belonging, peace and hope. Where everyone has the freedom to sit on their front porch and dream big dreams! We see this neighborhood community as a beautiful witness to our God and all the great diversity of His creation–shalom as our new life-giving American Dream!

“When God called Abraham to bless him, and to bless all the nations through him, he employed the notion of “Shalom”. This Hebrew word, in time, came to mean everything good you would want for yourself and wishing that same quality of life for your neighbors and friends…” (Dr. John Perkins, Beyond Charity

on the porch_BWDiane is a former corporate America 70’s gal, who roared through the business world for 30 years. It took a move from her beloved, fast-paced urban lifestyle into California suburbia to shake her world. There, she was asked to be an outreach director at a large church. Her upwardly mobile, affluent Christian lifestyle became totally wrecked as her family started & continues on a journey of living different.

She is now a wife, mom & neighbor in the diverse Logan Square neighborhood of Chicago. She labels herself as a CCD Mama. That means a gal (not necessarily married or a mom!) who commits to live & love with God’s heart for seeking justice & empowering others in Christian community development. You can find her website at Connectingood, or find her on Twitter here.

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4 thoughts on “Choosing a Different Dream: Guest Post by Diane Miller

  1. alissabc says:

    Thanks for sharing this! It’s so good to hear the stories of other families, especially with kids, who are choosing this path. And I love the CCD Mama label. Look forward to reading more about what that looks like on your blog.

  2. I loved this post so much.

    “…we’re still battling our old “dream” tendencies”

    It’s true. All it takes is one coffee date with old friends you’ve lost touch with or a stroll through the mall to get you all twitchy and confused about your “dream.”

    I hope I can model and live this kind of life.


  3. Thanks for your comments, friends. So much of this is about living in the tension of the struggle, battling our challenges & sin issues authentically, living with the discomfort… all within loving community.

    And, I will write more about kids… that’s a whole ‘nother mama post, or 3!


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